Understanding what comes next puts you back in control of your own reactions. Soon though they act rather cool towards you and you wonder what the heck happened? If you are not communicating openly it is harder to figure it all out. Believe me, the truth will set you free as the saying goes. But trying to stimulate him to do so by becoming overly emotional won't work. And he gave me every indication that this was his thinking, too.
You believe the beginning is an indicator of the end. Do your key goals for the future match up? I take fully responsibility for my foolishness but it is very embarassing nonetheless. With a sense of comfort and well-being we can build a framework with compassion, trust and humor that will lead to rich, genuine outcomes. You feel so bad when he is cold, then he brings you instant relief when he is hot. If you really like this guy and want a relationship with him then tell him that. While women often have the stereotype of blowing hot and cold, men can exhibit this behavior too.
The situation is classic: he pursues you, so you lean in. Looking back on my own extensive dating history, the guys who called when they said they would were the ones who were serious and very into me. We can look at the information we have and decide if this person has long term potential or if they are the person that is guarded, then open, then guarded again. Men are not originally made to be in a long-term relationship with you we were made to procreate, have sex and pass our genes in to tomorrow. A man's purpose can be anything from something straightforward like excelling at work or building his own company, to something more creative like starting and working at a do-it-yourself project at home or training at his favorite sport. Terms and phrases such as the. I was waaaaay too emotionally invested in the fantasy.
If a guy is into you, he will open up and will peel back that outer layer. But then I told him I loved him. They buy her flowers,, dinners, drinks, and to her. He gets bored easily - especially when the fun is over. If he reacts by becoming emotionally needy e. When he is on hot, he sucks you in and the connection feels just right. Why Was He So Into Me One Day And Cold The Next? Now — back to what I said above about reality setting in.
But that requires up-front honesty and heart-felt commitment on both your parts. At first I would look at his myspace page everyday but I have forced myself to stop that. I am a great person, fun, employed, not pushy, fairly cute and smart. See also: That's why they buy so many clothes, bags and shoes. Your emotions, health, mind, and daily life, just about everything, get in control.
They only make up like 50% of the earth's population. Your guy has been playing the hot and cold game. It usually means I can live with or without him if I can turn it off that easily. This is the part of the brain that is in every living creature — of course, reptiles included. The same goes for men — men will do crazy things to just feel like a man.
The most important factor is we get to decide what we want to do and not just let someone else control how we feel or are in a relationship. How His Purpose Or Lack Of Can Affect You When a man isn't going after his own purpose, or has fallen away from it or forgotten about it, it often gets in the way of the relationship he's in. Actually allow yourself to be open and vulnerable. You can have that power over women. Instead of seeing it for what it is, women make up excuses and justifications to rationalize the bad behavior away.
Then he forgets about you and leaves you out in the cold. Own your feelings of pain and hurt and recognize your need to be loved equally and fully with no confusion or mixed messages allowed. You pursue him because you are focused on the initial great behaviour rather than the reality of the majority of his behaviour. It's a common thing among women. With the right person all of your doubts go away. You have to know that, women are instinctively emotional animal, they behave more on their emotional side, less on logical side.
So instead of ending up feeling rejected and humiliated, do nothing. You can ask questions about his feelings and, depending on whether he acknowledges his negative feelings or wishes to share them with you, you might get some answers. But in a week or two same thing happens again. A guy pulling out the excuses early on is always a bad omen. This is how it works in the animal kingdom — and it still works similar to us humans, even though men have become a lot more passive in this modern era.